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  1. How to Use Sex Toys With your Male Partner by Noorindah Iskandar

    How to Use Sex Toys With your Male Partner by Noorindah Iskandar

    Introducing sex toys may not be an easy topic to broach in the bedroom especially when it comes to your male partner.  He may sometimes feel slighted or insecure as there’s a misconception that sex toys are only used when an individual is sexually unfulfilled. However sex toys should be seen as a collaborator, not a competitor when it comes to partnered sex! In fact, they can help increase the intimacy and bond with your beloved. If you’re keen to explore together with him, here are some suggestions to start the conversation.

    1. Ask for consent

    If this is your first tim

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  2. Pink Womxn of Substance: Dr. Vani Khare of Sanrakshan Pte Ltd, Singapore, and NGO Faith Foundation Trust India

    Pink Womxn of Substance: Dr. Vani Khare of Sanrakshan Pte Ltd, Singapore, and NGO Faith Foundation Trust India

    We are proud to continue our feature of prominent womxn of substance!

    1. Tell us more about what you do

    I am a humanitarian, child rights advocate, and a biologist. I founded a social change organisation Faith Foundation that has reached out to 500000 children and adolescents across India and Southeast Asia. I am also currently doing a postdoctoral fellowship in a lab at the Institute of Molecular and Cell biology at ASTAR Singapore.

    2. Why do you do what you do?

    Surprisingly there are no whys to it. I just have this inherent realisation in my core that I am here to create safer spaces for those who need it and promote healing through my efforts. It feels like I have a sacred contract with divine/universe or that higher energy. My best work often comes through me and not by me.

    3. How did you get started?

    My father was a major influence to me. He was a paleobotanist and mentor to many. Watching

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  3. 4 Intermediate-Level Sex Toys by Joyen

    4 Intermediate-Level Sex Toys by Joyen


    Do you have the confidence of entering a sex shop without feelings of being overwhelmed and confused? Would you say that you are a safe space for your rather conservative friends who are total beginners in the realm of sex and pleasure? Are you curious about upping your game and are excited about exploring more erotic offerings? Well, here are 4 things that may be able to satiate your carnal interests.

    1.) Pelvic Exercisers

    If you have already established a routine with your current arsenal of toys, then you may already have a keen idea of your needs and wants. You may also have already figured out your level of endurance and how this can impact your pursuit of pleasure. Pleasure Balls are a prodigious way of increasing enjoyment with your existing

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  4. Do Sex Toys Cause Addiction? by Sexologist Dr. Martha Tara Lee

    Do Sex Toys Cause Addiction? by Sexologist Dr. Martha Tara Lee



    Do Sex Toys Cause Addiction? One Question, Four Answers!

    You might have heard that you can get addicted to sex toys, but it’s nothing more than a misconception based on pure ignorance!

    1.  It’s been researched!

    According to the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), there is not sufficient evidence to support the perception of sex addiction or porn addiction as a mental disorder. AASECT also does not find the sexual addiction training and treatment methods and educational pedagogies to be adequately informed by accurate human sexuality knowledge. The use of sex toys, by interpretation, is also not addictive.

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  5. The First Time: Trying Kink by Raine M

    The First Time: Trying Kink by Raine M

    “Can you wipe out my memory when it’s over?”

    My partner and I had been talking about kink and BDSM for a while. He was new to it and nervous, while I was more experienced but never pushed. He was fun-loving, open-minded, communicative, and respectful of boundaries–all of which made him an excellent candidate to try it out.

    Kink is the incorporation of non-conventional practices and fantasies in one’s sexual activities (though not all kink necessarily involves sex). Kink is the now common term to mean BDSM, and 75% to 90% of self-reported kinksters practice forms of bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, spanking, role-playing, exhibitionism, polyamory, clothing fetishism, and voyeurism.

    A 2006 Durex survey showed that 36% of Americans have tried kink, compared to 20% in the rest of the world. Despite what some may think, studies show that

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  6. Rekindling the Romance During the Pandemic by Noorindah Iskandar

    Rekindling the Romance During the Pandemic by Noorindah Iskandar

    As a result of the mental fatigue and stress during the COVID-19 pandemic, it may feel like keeping the romance alive with your partner would be the last thing on your mind especially after spending so much time together in lockdown. “What do you mean I have to be romantic, I’m literally stuck with them everyday!”

    It’s precisely because working from home and being a partner/ mother/ father/ caretaker means that there hasn’t been a clear division in roles so you may end up taking your relationships for granted. What used to be minor annoyances may seem to suddenly erupt into major arguments over who’s doing all the emotional labour in the household, and picking up the pieces that the other partner leaves behind. Depression may also creep in as routines and freedom are disrupted, alongside the possibility of getting sick and job loss become real threats.

    As we

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  7. The Best Sex Toys for Beginners by Shy.sg

    The Best Sex Toys for Beginners by Shy.sg

    You may be wondering. Just like how there’s no absolute “best” cuisine when it comes to food, there is no single best toy to use. It all comes down to taste and preference!

    In this article, we share some tips for beginners to choose their first sex toy based on the pleasure zones they want to stimulate.

    How to choose your first sex toy

    The first step to choosing a sex toy is figuring out which part you want to pleasure. When masturbating, do you like to apply pressure to the clitoris, or do you prefer penetration?

    For people with vulvas, a key consideration is something that can be inserted, while for people with penises, a toy with a sleeve or sheath might be ideal. If nipple stimulation is your thing, consider toys that do that!

    Which sex toys work best for each pleasure zone?

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  8. Pink Womxn of Substance: Rachael SE of LesBeHeard

    Pink Womxn of Substance - Rachael SE of LesBeHeard

    We are proud to feature prominent womxn of substance and Rachael SE is our first!

    1) Tell us more about what you do

    Professionally, I am in the Media industry.

    As for passion, I started Lesbeheard (A queer woman site) to inspire, advocate, educate and celebrate women in love.

    To share educational content, stories and to be the voice we never had.

    2) Why do you do what you do?

    Getting messages saying how they are so glad and grateful that there is a page like LBH to help them through their discovery, self-love and a platform

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  9. Pink Womxn of Substance: Noorindah Iskandar of Shy & Curious

    Pink Womxn of Substance

    1. Tell us more about what you do

    I’m the founder and writer behind Shy & Curious, an online platform that explores sex and love without the fear of having to hide your Google search history. I write articles and essays about sex, relationships and intimacy through a mix of personal anecdotes and extensive research from certified trusted sources.

    2. Why do you do what you do?

    My mother passed away unexpectedly in 2019 after hiding her breast cancer from our family. She never saw a doctor and remain undiagnosed until 4 days to her death when we had to send her to the ER. While mourning her death, I was greatly affected by the fact that while we were so open about certain taboo topics like making dirty jokes or sharing details about sex, she was too ashamed of her body to tell me the truth about her cancer. She ended up having to deal with her pain alone a

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  10. Should Athletes Have Sex Before A Big Match? by Sexologist Dr. Martha Tara Lee

    Should Athletes Have Sex Before A Big Match

    The relationship between sex and athletic performance has been debated for centuries. Here’s what some of the science says.

    The role of testosterone

    Men may have more of it, but testosterone affects both men and women. It impacts athletic performance and low levels are linked to low energy, decreased strength and increased body fat. It also affects sex drive.

    While short, high-intensity training boosts testosterone levels in both men and women, low-intensity endurance training decreases it, which not only affects performance but also the desire for sex.

    It’s a downward spiral: low testosterone = low sex drive. Low sex drive = lower endorphins. More cortisol = anxiety = less sex drive. Plus, lower testosterone makes hitting those higher intensity sessions more difficult.

    What does science say?

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